Live and let live 

“Live and Let live”.

There is both good and bad qualities in every human..no one is perfect.Yeah i agree on this..we cannot change others ,all we can do is change ourselves , hence like Gandhi once said..let’s be the change we wish to see in this world.

We all have our own opinions on everything that happens around us. There are always two types of opinion. We always have two ways to put forth our opinion.. a) as a  suggestion or b) criticism/sarcastic opinions. The former one is constructive opinion and the latter one being destructive opinion.

Constructive opinion – we choose to convey our opinions as suggestions.. it is never a comment on once personal life or life style, looks or abilities.. it’s a general suggestion that is positive.. Coz if we use this way to convey our message or thoughts we are never forcing it on someone or hurting them.

We like a particular lifestyle and we follow what we preach that’s great but that doesn’t really mean everyone should like and follow the same .. right?

Destructive opinion- where we often use sarcasm and criticism. I would never say sarcasm or criticism is completely wrong .. it’s required too but remember not every time.. Being a sarcastic person all the time is not a very ideal idea.

Since people are different it is obvious that there will always be some difference of opinion.. In such a case the use of sarcasm to prove the other wrong is definitely not a healthy option.

This doesn’t mean only like minded people  can be friends .People with totally different or opposite views on life can remain friends for life..if they could remove sarcasm from their lives.. whenever you tend to say something sarcastically just think before you say it “will you like it if the someone else uses the same on you?”. If the answer is no .. then don’t say it .

Things that hurt us will definitely hurt someone else as well..i guess being empathetic has become a rare personality nowadays,you can’t really find it in all.

As i said there is always both good and bad within us.. let’s not let the good in us die. Let’s live and let live. Afterall its a beautiful life that we have why hurt others ..live and let live.

Note: I personally felt like writing something on this because i noticed people … majority of us make this mistake of using  the second method to convey our thoughts and ideas… and wonder why only some of us have problems with people all the time.. we can never change others. All we can do is to bring the desired change in us for good.

For example:You like a particular routine in life .. well that’s really good .. but never force it on others.. suggestion is a great idea to let them know that following a particular routine is great for health and life ..but don’t expect them to follow everything as such .. you have done your part once you tell them your suggestion .. now it’s up to them whether to follow or not.. suggestion is an added option from the available options isn’t it? Hence let them choose from the options .. if they choose your suggestion be happy .. if they don’t then its ok .. all is still well.. just be happy you could help by suggesting .. never oppose and fight trying to force your suggestion on them .. since it no longer remains a suggestion then,. which is definitely bad for the relationship between the two.

The saying “Live and let live” makes so much sense.

By: Aswathi ashok.